To start with, will you please raise your hand if you have encountered with this question time and again:
“When are you getting married?”
All of us, I suppose, raised our hands , literally or otherwise.
Crossing over to the other half of my twenties some years back marked the beginning of my encounter with this question. Now that I am dangerously approaching the prefix of a new number in my age, the arithmetic progression of this question is not amusing. Some self-proclaimed unofficial spokersperson on the institution of marriage would want to know not only ‘when’ but also ‘why’ I should get married. In such a case, the by-now inevitable atom-bomb would start with a:
”Now that you have got a job………………”
Tempted as I am to discuss the over-emphasised and flawed inter- linkages given to marriage with job and age, let me use this short post to address the question of the question.
The discussion in the dhabas after the winter breaks in JNU would always include outbursts towards the uncles and the aunts who were bombarding us with the marriage question during the whole holiday season. There is a big difference between concern and nosey. At least, we were all in unison on the other side of the fence. Or so I thought. To my horror, lately, this question has even become rampant even among my peer groups. So fed up was I with the frequent encounter with the question, i devised this clever plan of asking everyone the same question before they get to ask me. This has been working and as much as I understand their annoyance, I have been thinking lately that, consciously or unconsciously, my friends might have been using this as a defence mechanism themselves. Also, winter season being the unofficial wedding season and the influx of wedding picture uploads in facebook makes sure the marriage question remains a trending topic and adds fuel to the fire.
My point here is, let us stop asking this question-which-i-don’t –even-wanna-type-again to each other at least. This is what really bothers me. Let us leave that to the annoying uncles and aunts. Because, if you are my friend, I will call you up personally when I make this very important decision of my life. And if you keep on enquiring before that, you might not even get a card. Just kidding.
9 comments:
Bah!! Last time we talked, I said bye with a 'see-u-next-@-my-wedding' liner. You replied "or mine".
So That leaves me with nothing else except "WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED?"
Ok.... was that my name you just struck of from ur list of invites??? Heeeee.
lol..how can i have my wedding without my photographer???
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nice thought... and i feel all think the same way ... and ur blog is a solution to the q of those uncles and aunty's ...anyways looking forward for ur invite ...hehe
@sindhu..surely surely..:)
Why are you in a hurry? Prof. Thang is growing younger. Let us all wait for him. BTW, we're all getting the same attention and advice :-)
haha, married? not yet decided and im not gonna do right now coz buhfai no khat thlakbelh ringawt a nilo, an ti,..
I do agree... My dad married when he was 3 years younger than what I am right now, to my mum of course, and that gives plenty of reason for relatives and the like to ask "when.. When.. Oh! Friggin when".. I guess the only answer that can quiet them would be "Why now? Let me enjoy my financially-stable bachelor life for a little bit more before I get drawn to the mundanity of a married one"..
One good answeer you can give to them is to ask When is your funerals? That will keep their mouth shut
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